Can you relate?

Let's discover how our relationships (family relationships, friendships and romantic relationships) are majorly affected and distroyed.

Let's start by introducing S.A.P.P.E

S.A.P.P.E is an anti-relational system that dominates in most relationships today.

Recognizable by the predominance of:

• Injunctions

• Threats

• Devaluations / Disqualifications

• Guilt

• Blackmail

Why S.A.P.P.E?

Effects on each protagonists of an exchange

Sourd Deaf

Aveugle Blinded

Pernicieux Pernicious

Pervers Perverse

Energétivore Energy-consuming

(French)

"The hard part isn't learning about what you don't know, it's learning about what you already know."

Jacques Salome

Here's an example of:

1- Injunctions

They are real shackles that serve as a safeguard or censor the possible

expression of an irrational that could open up to creativity or the freedom to be.

2- Threats

The implicit or explicit injunctions, direct or indirect, sometimes contained in banal sentences, slow down the vitality, and want to control the imaginary and the irrational in the life of a person.

3- Devaluations and disqualifications

The disqualifications practiced on the other aim to hurt, with the illusion of causing them to change their behavior. Comparison is often associated with devaluation.

4- Guilt

Guilt aims to maintain an addiction, to let the other believe that he is responsible of our difficulty, discomfort or suffering. It allows to delay affirmation.

5- Blackmail

Blackmail, an attempt to influence behavior or the decision of the other against his own choices or desires, only works if I agree to his injunctions and if I submit to the stated threat.

If you can Relate, you seriously need to Communicate.

• Confirmation of the other's point of view • Affirmation of my point of view • Exchange on feelings, imagination, everyone's beliefs • Decision making or personalized choice

Noura N. Zein

Psychomotor therapist